Bryan Chapell, writer of Word magazine notes, "Biblical leadership invloves sacrificing one's self for the sake of another. A biblically guided husband looks past his own right to consider what's right for his spouse. Following Christ's example, such a husband refuses to abdicate the responsibility of leadership for the family, but uses his biblical authority to arrange the family's resources and activities to serve the best interests of his wife and children."
Submission doesn't mean a wife can't offer advice and wise counsel. The Proverbs 31 woman did just that in verse 26, "she opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue." It doesn't mean she walks around saying, "Yes, dear. Whatever you say, dear."
But it does mean, when the husband and wife don't agree on a decision, the wife defers to the husband's wishes. "But what if I know I am right?" you might ask. To obey God is the "ultimate right". After all, we're accountable to God for our obedience.
When it comes to submission, we have 3 choices:
~Lovingly submit to our husbands and support them in leadership.
~ Begrudingly submit to our husbands, complete with pouting, sulking, cold shoulders, nonverbal hostility, and a bounty of "I told you so's" if their decisions turn out unfavorably.
~Refusing to submit, thereby winning the battle but chipping away at the foundation of the marriage.
(taken from the book, A Woman's Secret to a Balanced Life)
I agree with the author when she says number 1 is best. In order to have a happy, fulfilled, God centered marriage, we have to submit and not in "I will but I won't like it" way. If we can view, us not submitting as disobedience to God, maybe then we can see it as sin. Let your husband take the reins...and see how God can bless you AND your marriage for it. ~ Kindra
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